Work and money can be used for necessities and fun or can become a hostile third party in your relationship.
What Is Money?
Money can be more than a paycheck.
Money has power.
1. It enables you to purchase what you need to live a fun and fulfilling life.
2. It can also be a symbol of who has the power in the relationship.
You and your partner can choose the role money will play in your life.
It’s a crucial choice and one that will critically affect your relationship.
Have Money Work for You, not Against You.
Think of money as an energy that you need to channel.
To have money work for you, work together to manage it with these techniques:
1. Create a budget.
When working together, you discover the differences and similarities in your attitude and beliefs about money, spending, and saving.
Discussing money is a major challenge in many relationships. Remember that your relationship is the primary focus of your life. Money is a tool, a resource.
2. Be aware of the emotional differences in money.
On one extreme, one may want to save all the money they can for fear of not having enough.
On the other extreme, one will spend money as soon as they get it. Most challenges with money are emotional. How is money handled during your childhood?
The Biggest Challenges of Money
When money becomes the source of control or self-image, complex challenges can occur between couples and in families.
Money can contribute to the strength of your partnership and family.
With financial concerns, put the needs and well-being of your family and each other first.
1. When finances are limited, sit down together and set your priorities.
After food, shelter, and transportation, preferences can vary depending on the current situation. Use your communication tools when the two of you differ on priorities.
Have the mindset of “problem-solving” rather than someone being right or wrong.
2. If you’ve decided to put your money together in one account, you both get an equal say in setting priorities.
Self-esteem issues can come up for both of you.
If you come to an impasse regarding where to allocate your money, find a third party to assist you.
Sometimes you need someone who is not caught in the emotion of the moment to bring clarity to what has become a difficult situation.
3. Using money as punishment or a means to control another can lead to painful consequences.
Working Through the Challenges of Work
Have you ever felt that life was easier when you were poor and struggling?
Challenges regarding work, especially those which limit your time with each other are important to discuss.
Areas to regularly evaluate in your life include:
•Are you spending enough time with each other?
•Are you fulfilled in what you’re doing?
•If you could make changes, which ones would you make?
•What impact is your work having on you mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually?
Communication is the key to a healthy and stable relationship.
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